[Currently listening to "Dancing on the Moon" while writing to you...]
Singleness has been something I've spoken to you guys about for a while now. Last time, I wrote a post on blooming right where you are planted which is about living your life right here, right now in all your singleness, but we're going to go a little deeper this time and talk about waiting for your future husband. There are two important things about waiting that we all need to know – waiting for the one God has for you is better and praying is the most powerful thing you can do while you wait.
Waiting protects your heart. From being single to falling for the wrong one, the heart endures so much and there aren’t enough words to address its tenderness. This is why waiting for the one God has for you is so much better than rushing into the wrong relationship. You have to guard your heart. Falling for the wrong one does more damage than we think and it takes a lot to recover a damaged heart. Waiting for the right person will keep your heart safe, healthy and pure.
How do you know if you waited for the right one? Well, first of all, it is the man’s job to do the work and pursue you. Now, we can dive into the topic of pursuit another time, but also know that just because a man is pursuing you does not always mean he is the right one either. You will need to go God to give you peace on if he is the right one and ask Him to shut it down if not. And if it’s not, well then you know you are still waiting.
Waiting does not mean you have to sit, do nothing and not even think of him. In actuality, you can guard your heart and teach it to love your future husband before even meeting him. You do this through prayer. Praying for your future husband allows you to love him while you wait. Imagine how special your future hubby will feel when you tell him how much you’ve been praying for him even before you knew who he was!
Truthfully, the title of this post is two-fold by definition: loving him while you wait is both loving God and loving your future husband. Love God by seeking Him and obeying Him by waiting for the one He gives you peace about. Love your future husband by covering him in prayers and choosing to see him through eyes of faith before you see him through the eyes of your flesh.
Two years ago, I came across a Christian blog that hosted a 14-day series on praying for your future husband. After reading the post, I remember distinctly sitting down and writing my own prayers for my future husband for the first time. There is nothing more powerful you can do during your wait than to cover your future husband in specific prayer. Over the summer, my friends and I committed to 14-days of prayer for our future husbands. During this time we each learned so much about ourselves and more importantly, we learned more about who God is.
I’ve listed 7 different prayer points that are a good start if this is not something you’ve done before. Take 10 minutes every day this week to pray for your husband. I recommend grabbing some paper, a pen and writing each one out. Attached at the end of each prayer is a scripture to tie it all together. Feel free to write your own prayer for each point or you can use the exact prayers I’ve written out below.
Day 1: Pray for his life
God, thank you for my future husband. Thank you so much for his life. Help him live according to your purpose for him. Help him make all the right decisions. I trust your timing for us and I pray that you would align our lives together when it is right. Please protect him this week and give him great joy every single day. Your word says. “…I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly” John 10:10. Thank you for blessing my future husband with an abundant life. Amen.
Day 2: Pray for his heart
God, I thank you so much for my future husband’s heart. Please bless and protect his heart. I pray that he would have the capacity to love you and love others in a great way. Help him guard his heart every day but also keep it wide open to You. I pray good and perfect health in his heart. If there has been any damage done to his heart please heal him completely so that he can love without fear. Your word says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart” Ezekiel 36:26. Thank you, Lord, for my future husband’s new heart. Amen.
Day 3: Pray for his peace:
God, thank you for covering my future husband in peace today and every day. I pray that he would not focus on the trials of life but keep his eyes set on you. In the midst of chaos help him to hold onto the peace that you give him. Let him be strong because he walks in peace with you. I pray that he would carry peace in his mind and heart to be able to think, speak and act clearly no matter what comes his way. Philippians 4:7 says, “and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Thank you, Lord for protecting my future husband with your peace. Amen.
Day 4: Pray for his relationships
God, thank you for sending all the right people to my future husband. Let every relationship he has with others be for right reasons. Please bless him with the gift of friendship, and family. Bring him friends who will bring joy to his life and support whenever he needs it. Protect his relationship with his family and help them to grow closer in love to one another. And may he have healthy relationships in his career. Your word says, “Greater love has no one than this than to lay down one’s life for his friends” John 15:13. So I pray Lord that my future husband would have John 15:13 kind of relationships. Amen.
Day 5: Pray for his health
God thank you for blessing my future husband with good health. I pray that he would not be prone to illness because you protect him. Please give my future husband a healthy mind and a healthy body. Help him to make choices that are good for his health. Make him strong on the inside and the outside so that he will have all the strength he needs to live every day. Your word says, “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” III John 1:2. Thank you, Lord, for the promise of prospering my husband in good health. Amen.
Day 6 Pray for his prosperity:
God thank you for giving my future husband success in all that he does. I pray that you would bring prosperity to every part of his life. Help him to be wise to his success and make decisions that will only contribute to greater prosperity for you. Lead him in every endeavor you bless him with. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” I pray that this promise would be true in my future husband’s life. Amen.
Day 7: Pray for his joy
God, thank you for filling my future husband up with so much joy. May the weight of worries and cares be lifted off so that he can experience your full joy. I pray that he would have joy every single day no matter what happens. Cause him to laugh more and often. Help him to smile effortlessly every day to those around him. Shine your light of joy on him so that he lights up the world around him. John 15:11 says, “These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” Thank you for keeping my husband full of Your joy. Amen.
Stay tune for the sequel to this post on how we can pray for ourselves while we wait. In the mean time, comment below your thoughts, how you've been praying and/or if you plan to join me this week in praying for your husband!
I'm praying for you babes and hope you have a wonderful week of prayer! Love you!